Do you blush when somebody compliments you? Do you squirm uncomfortably in your seat? Science shows that compliments are a valuable tradition that builds WHealth.
A compliment is a powerful verbal gift. I have written often about the power of giving, and the tremendous value that this simple act unlocks for both the giver and the receiver. For the most part, I tend to emphasize the value for the giver. When we are generous, we honor our natural design, and trigger deep biological responses that unlock health and happiness. Mother nature rewards us for doing the right thing.
Gifts don’t need massive price tags to be valuable. Diamonds and gold are not necessary for WHealth. The simple act of giving that makes us prosper. In fact, it is sometimes the least expensive gifts, like affirmation and praise, that evoke the most benefit.
This article will focus on the recipient. How do you receive praise?
Many of us are uncomfortable when we get a compliment. At best, we reluctantly accept the kind words. Several factors drive our discomfort. Sometimes it’s just downright embarrassing when somebody identifies our strong points publicly. Other times, we find the implied scrutiny uncomfortable – we feel exposed and self-conscious. Mainly, we have been raised by good parents who taught us humility, and we worry that readily accepting a compliment might be misinterpreted as conceit or arrogance. In the worst circumstances, we might feel unworthy of the praise.
But compliments are wonderful gifts, and we should learn to accept them openly, with warmth and gratitude, for four main reasons.
- When we receive a gift, Mother Nature triggers the release of hormones like serotonin and dopamine that make us happy.
- More importantly, words of affirmation reinforce our self-belief, especially when they come from somebody we like and respect. When we believe we are valuable, we become valuable. Outside opinion is a powerful ally for our cognitive brain in its fight against the undermining voice of our primitive reptilian brain.
- When we accept a compliment, we express gratitude, which itself is powerful stimulant of health and happiness through well-recognized biological pathways.
- Finally, when we openly acknowledge the sentiment and intent of kind words, we complete the circle of giving that starts deep in the emotional brain of the giver. In addition to our own gains, we reward the giver. By completing the circle, they too enjoy Mother Nature’s magical design, and are rewarded with health and happiness.
So when you get your next compliment, don’t reject it stoically. Rather, look the giver in the eye, give them a huge warm smile, and a simple “thank you”. This is the road to WHealth.